When dreams don’t come true + what to do about it


when dreams don't come true and what you can do about it

Some people have goals.

I have dreams.

I like having dreams.

It’s airy fairy fun.

I make wishes over every birthday cake and encourage everyone to do the same.

But I gotta tell you I grew up this year.

A really big dream of mine didn’t come true and can’t come true anymore.

Not unless I chain myself to the desert sand and defend the land on behalf of my dream.

I had a dream of starting a community garden south of the 215 near Jones where a big plot of land (acres and acres) were left bare and open for

a wild dove such as myself to land her dreams into

and visualize her idyllic garden every time she walked by.

She relished on how fun it would be for the community to have

a plot of land,

grow greens and

enjoy life with singing,

dancing and

wildness.

But dreams don’t come true without action.

Not without calling the city and getting the zoning changed.

Not without rallying some serious meaningful troops of

open hearted yogis

willing to knock door to door and ask the community to pitch in to buy the land.

Nope.

The bulldozers came last week and tear apart the desert sand.

There goes my heart. my dream. and my day.

Tears rolled down my face as my son played unaware of my heart breaking.

Here comes more neighbors,

more houses more ways to separate human beings into cookie cutter buildings without any sensible way to connect meaningfully in an open land.

Well, at least, not in my neighborhood.

My heart ached in sorrow.

I put my son to sleep for his nap and cried tears of anger and tears of shame.

How could I have done that?

How could I have ignored the multiple signs?

The letter that even came to my door step with the notice of the public hearing?

I didn’t even go to voice my dream.

Never even tried to follow my heart’s guidance to call in and ask for the zoning to be changed.

I reminded myself I was having a baby and retreats and this and that and of course we always are too busy.

What I got from the experience is I kept my dream too far away.

It was too big for my small hands.

I thought I had to do it all on my own.

I had not thought of merging my dream with others.

Life shifted for me on that day and showed me new possibilities.

I still made a wish on my 30th birthday.

I still clapped my hands and invited the fairies to come over for some fun.

And with deep breaths and self-forgiveness I quickly realized my dream did come true.

That evening, I was eating fresh greens from a local garden blocks from my home.

Not joking!

It was sweeter and more healing than I could have imagined it.

Don’t you love it when things get done without your help?

Here’s how I have been making my dreams come true, gently, lovingly, guided by intuition + what you can do when your dreams don’t come true.

Remember dreams don’t come true without action… reading this article is your first step sweet dove.

1. Don’t give up on them for they haven’t given up on you & Do let the dream do the picking

The dream picked you because it knows you are perfect for it.

It’s been looking for you as long as you have been looking for it!

You are the perfect combination of smart, funny, beauty and energy to make it happen.

Dreams never make mistakes!

If the dream didn’t or can’t happen anymore, it might just mean the dream has a different idea in mind for you.

A different quality.

A different group of people it might guide you towards.

So you may not marry this person but it doesn’t mean you aren’t going to have the most gorgeous fun marriage you ever wanted.

So you may not get to keep this house or get this job or the project you wanted.

It doesn’t mean you don’t get to have it. It might mean you just don’t get to have it exactly the way you had thought it should have happened.

The very night of my difficult heart break I ran into a great friend of mine who has the exact same dream as mine and has been growing gardens in Vegas for years.

I breathed a great big sigh of relief and stayed in his arms a little longer feeling as though,

I had come home.

Life showed me my dream already was happening.

Here was his gorgeous gardens just blocks away.

I just hadn’t thought to ask + see the dream might have already started elsewhere.

2. Don’t give power to the voice – Do give power to the truth

Ya know that inner nagging voice that always comes around to tell you:

“It’s a waste of time, it will never work, you won’t make any money doing it, what’s the point, no one cares blah blah blah.”

Honestly, here’s my advice: When the voice tells you that junk, graciously give it a hug, give it a wink, bat your wings and fly off to another flock of happy doves willing to believe in you and sing your praises even if you never do a dang thing about it.

Cuz we love you anyway!

Breathe that in.

Let it soften your shoulder.

Sink down to your heart and claim your pow -pow-power! 🙂

3. Write, sing, draw affirm the ideal for your dream

Gently,

graciously without trying to control the shape of your creation,

without dictating the colors you will use to paint your canvas,

let the moment flow within you like a gracious swirl breathing in and out of your heart.

Be that gentle wave caressing the sand during sunset.

Take a pen and paper and write down some answers to these questions:

If you could sit down with your dream for a chat, seeing it as perfect whole and completed, what would it tell you?

  1. How did it get so perfectly complete?

  2. Did anyone help you?

  3. What did they look like?

  4. How did you meet them?

Quiet your mind. Open your heart and let the words flow through you.

  1. How did you feel while working on this dream (hum playing, but don’t tell anyone).

  2. Were you full of energy or stressed and tired?

  3. Were you at the right place at the right time meeting the exact people you needed to take it to the next level?

  4. Were you growing and expanding and adventuring through wild sun filled days in awe with the manifestation of what spirit could actually do with you t